The funny thing is that we attended pre-martial counseling to avoid such conflicts and my husband told our counselor that he wanted me to be the head of our marriage. We had a good marriage but we often fought as we both tried to dominate the other when it came to who would make the decisions in our marriage. I told him of my submissive fantasies and he role-played with me some at the beginning of our marriage but for the most part he showed little interest in D&S or Domination. My husband Winston and I were married when I was twenty two and he was thirty.